My theory on Behavior consists of 3 points.
Behavior is a "Reaction" to
1) "What" you see,
2) "How" you choose to interpret the situation, and
3) "Why" are you choosing to react that way.

A "Conscious Behavior" example would be you at an after hours office party. "What" you see is your boss and co-workers. "How" you interpret it is "a time to be friendly to create deeper connections and better relationships with these people". The "Why" behind the reaction is to create a "What they see" in hopes to influence "How they choose to interpret you" in such a way to create a "Why" behind a positive reaction to you.

In a world of judgment, your best efforts can still be not seen behind the "What" people are seeing. If you can help them "How" to interpret it, you are much further ahead. Your "Why" is to help create the "What and How" in others, such that they create a "Why be positive to you."

If "What" you choose to see is the positive in them, and "How" you interpret the positive is that they are pure loving energy at their core, your "Why" is a natural positive response showing them you see the positive in them.

When "What" they see is that you see positive in them, chances are that "How" they interpret that is that they like what you see in them. Their "Why" becomes to affirm "What" you have chosen to see in them.

Assuming you have the positive vision, we now can address the issue of respect. You can love everybody, yet still behave inappropriately. Your vision and intentions are noble, yet your behavior is not respected. Your "Why" needs to include gaining the respect of others. Because showing respect to someone can be done without sincerity, and is often done so, it is not the direct way to achieve respect from others. This is also reflected in the faulty concept of simply giving respect will get you respect in return. Instead of this, it is whatever respect you have for yourself is what will be affirmed by others. Your "Why" is to include "Self Respect", then see them as equally deserving this respect. An authentic self respect must be achieved.

What is Self Respect? Respect: Middle English, from Latin respectus, literally, act of looking back. An act of giving particular attention or consideration, a high or special regard, esteem, the quality or state of being esteemed. There is positional and authentic respect. Positional respect is achieved from accomplishments and position in society. True authentic Self Respect comes from the idea "I am as God created me".

To summarize:
Your "Why" of your behavior is because you see positive in them, and you have an authentic respect for yourself as well as them.